How to get over a heartbreak.

I was reading another blogger’s entry right now and they were talking about heartbreak. It had been over a year since their relationship ended but here they were still hurting.  It’s been so long for me I barely remember the feeling now.  I think that’s what we humans are great at feeling pain and forgetting it. In our minds we only have a memory after some time.

I remember thinking at the time “Wow this physically hurts. It was like literally feeling a knife piercing through your chest.  Suddenly the basic functions of everyday life were meaningless. I had no appetite for food. Comfort could only be found by clutching the pillow to my chest and crying.  Friends try to distract you but even they have to admit there really isn’t anything they can do but be there to assure you that you are not alone.

Anyone who has ever experienced heartbreak like this knows what I’m talking about…and if you don’t, some day I hope you will. I know that sounds a little harsh but it’s the truth.  I think the only way to truly appreciate REAL love is to experience heart break.

How to get over a heartbreak.
Take a shower
That’s right take a shower; and if you really feel bad, take a cold one you’d be amazed.  You’ll think that it’s crazy and you’ll wonder why you’re doing it but I assure you – that stabbing feeling in your chest? Gone.  (That is until you start thinking all over again.)

Get those endorphins flowing
Go for a walk and if that’s not enough to distract you, run.  Try to run so much that you can barely breathe and try your best to actually break a sweat.  Getting those endorphins flowing will help you feel better I promise.

Stop talking to the one who broke your heart
It’s tempting to remain in contact with your ex you shouldn’t.  Delete their contact information from your phone, your social network profiles, cut off all ties.  The sooner you can distance yourself from them the sooner you will feel better.

Focus on YOU
Set small goals for yourself like drink a cup tea every night before you go to bed every day for a week. Then when you’re up to it start thinking of goals you’d like to accomplish before the end of the year.  While you’re at it decide what goals you’d want to achieve in 5 years.

Laugh!
Whether it’s being with friends and family that always make you laugh or watch a comedy that you love.  What ever you have to do make yourself laugh. Sometimes even if you have to fake it.  Look at yourself in the mirror and just start laughing until you are doing it genuinely.

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Grilled sockeye salmon – Whole30 compliant

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Dinner tonight was DELICIOUS.  The recipe can be found here: Whole30 Grilled Salmon Officially I just completed Day 4 of Whole30 (I would be at Day 8 had I not messed up earlier!) but that’s OK.  Two things that I’ve noticed about this plan of eating good food three times a day… 1) I don’t feel gross after eating any of my meals 2) When I am hungry for my next meal I am HUNGRY.  Like… it’s not a matter of hmm… I feel like eating this or that or maybe it’s time for me to eat? NO. IT IS TIME TO EAT.  I was not prepared for lunch today so I threw something together:

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Yep… that’s mixed salad, sardines, pecans, and a banana.  My mouth was saying ew but my stomach after half the plate was saying “THANK GOD!”  I’m not starving myself I’m really not. I eat a lot probably more than I have in the past just less snacking and better quality food.  One of these days maybe I’ll dedicate one of my blog posts to my favorite meals on the The Whole30: The 30-Day Guide to Total Health and Food Freedom plan.  That probably won’t be until September or October though.  I am currently keeping a log on the Whole30 community forum however that particular board where I keep my log isn’t accessible to the public (sorry!)

Books read in 2015

I had installed a separate textarea/widget and somewhere in the process of changing my layout I lost it and my list of books I’ve read so far this year with it.  Thankfully I found out that the library’s website keeps a log of all the books that I’ve checked out!  I was able to create a whole new list and I decided to go ahead and dedicate a single post to it and use this to keep track of my list. 🙂

My goal is to read 50 books in 2015.  I am kind of slacking off I think. I need to read more if I don’t want to cram last minute just to reach my goal. OK so the list below are the book titles and authors that I’ve read… the ones marked with *** are ones that I would highly recommend/I personally really enjoyed.

Books Read in 2015

1. Ghost Soldiers – Hampton Sides***

2. Just Above Water – Louis Jenkins

3. How It All Began – Penelope Lively

4. The Book of Lost Things – John Connolly***

5. Dragon Champion – E.E. Knight***

6. NOS4A – Joe Hill***

7. Dept. of Speculation – Jenny Offill

8. Divergent – Veronica Roth***

9. Insurgent – Veronica Roth***

10. True Love – Jennifer Lopez

11. Horns – Joe Hill

12. The Cement Garden – Ian McEwan

13. Wintergirls – Laurie Halse Anderson

14. No one cares what you had for lunch: 100 ideas for your blog – Margaret Mason

15. Tales for very picky eaters – Josh Schneider

16. The monk who sold his Ferrari – Robin S. Sharma***

17. A Woman without a country: poems – Eavan Boland

18. Obsidian: a Lux novel – Jennifer L. Armentrout

19. The art of war – Sun Tzu***

20. It starts with food – Dallas & Melissa Hartwig***

21. Adultery – Paulo Coelho

What is your favorite book of all time?  If you had to suggest I read one single book what would you say? Please leave a comment with your suggestions now! 😉

What is your box?

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Fancy cat scratch post x2 = $50, vibrating cat toy $6, comfy cat bed $15… and do you know what Percy prefers to spend time with/in? That’s right this Del Monte Gold banana box that we got at Costco to carry our groceries in.

I’m sitting here on our porch listening to the birds chirp and the cars and motorcycles passing in the distance somewhere and I’m having one of those… self reflecting moments. We spend so much of our earned money buying things to entertain ourselves in the little time that we have not working. Why is that?

Percy paces when I move his box when he doesn’t know where I put it. It’s kind of funny. He loves boxes so much that we have two more inside the apartment so he has options. So what is my “box”?

I guess mine would be my husband who is sitting on the sofa right now working on his French. He’s studying the thing that he spends most days learning now. I know this is temporary and in the long run it will pay off. Heck, I better see Paris, France out of this! In the mean time all I can do is be here for him and help him when I can. I’m really glad that I decided to come to California with him. I probably would have drove myself crazy if I had stayed in Texas all this time. I do miss Texas though. I look forward to going back home. We both are.

Peas are considered legumes!!!

I thought I was wrapping up my Day 4 last night when a fellow Whole30 community member reached out and informed me that the peas I ate for breakfast one morning are considered legumes. 😦  Legumes are a non-compliant to Whole30 so I now have to restart my 30 days. I knew better than to eat something that wasn’t on the list. Next time I am questioning everything before I prepare it for consumption (no matter how green and safe/healthy it looks).

IMG_2284I must say though this Whole30 journey isn’t as hard as I thought it might be.  Yes I feel limited to the foods I can eat but at the same time it’s liberating to not have to stress about what to eat next.  I’ve tried more recipes that I have had when I didn’t limit the kind of foods I ate at all.  My most favorite recipe attempt I’ve done is Coconut shrimp.  It was DELICIOUS.  I used this recipe: Primal Bites: Healthy Paleo Coconut Shrimp

Dabbling in the coding world (again)

It’s been many years since I’ve attempted entering the world of programming.  I was 13 years old when I first started making my own website through a service formerly known as Express Pages.  I don’t know if any of you guys had the honor of using their service but it was awesome learning basic html.  I remember referring to Funky Chickens it was an exciting time! I remember I was a huge fan of B*Witched, Lilo and Stitch, Pokemon, and basketball.  Ah… the nostalgia.  Am I trying to regain that sense of high?  Probably. …but more importantly I am sick and tired of feeling helpless whenever I feel like exploring and idea or changing something in my forum and blog and I have to rely on other people to solve my problems for me.  Don’t get me wrong, support people are amazing and those that do it voluntarily oh man I am so grateful! …but I want to learn to stand on my own two feet – learn how to fish per say.

I guess I stopped trying to learn coding because I was intimidated by all of the fancy jargon… c++, javacript, joomla, whatever I have no idea what these things are.  But… I’m going to learn.  Where to start? I don’t know.  I’m hoping I will stumble the information I need if I just hang around webmaster forums long enough. Wish me luck!

Spending quality time together

IMG_20150606_141650In any relationship, romantic, platonic, familial, whatever it doesn’t matter; what does matter is that you spend quality time together. There is a difference between being in the same room with someone and spending quality time together. Why do people enjoy going on vacations? I think this is because this is when they actually engage with others. I think life is about making memories with other people. Whenever you get together with family or friends that you haven’t seen in a while, how often is it does someone start a sentence with “Remember when?”

If you look back at your happiest moments in life was it while being alone or was it when you were with others? I think we were meant to interact with each other but we’re a part of a society now where we now have the mindset that we should be careful. Who is going to screw us over today? Who is going to abuse our kindness? Why is he looking at me, is he going to mug me? I mean, seriously how many times do these type of thoughts enter our minds?

I know that bad things happen and there are bad people out there but I honestly believe that everyone are out there striving for something. No it’s not money. It’s happiness.  I don’t know anyone better to give me a sense of joy other than my family and friends. I just hope that I provide the same thing for them in return.