I finished reading a book called “The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari” by Robin S. Sharma (It’s a great read and I do recommend it). One of the things that it highlights as the key technique to live a more fulfilling life is to start off your day with purposely putting yourself in a tranquil setting for 10 minutes. The example that is used to do this was called “The heart of the rose” where a character in the book is instructed to look at a single rose flower for 10 minutes and see its every detail without letting the mind wander and just focus at the task at hand.
I can agree with the author that people spend so much time and energy on ‘worrying’ about things instead of just getting the tasks done or dealing with the situation directly. The character in the book is instructed by his mentor to give him a recap of his day and he goes to explain how he gets up, gets ready for work, scarfs down a waffle, gets to work to see an angry client because he’s late, had to deal with a series of problem clients, wife tells him to pick up something from his in-laws, he gets stuck in traffic and he curses at the traffic. His mentor points out that all of these things could have been handled with less stress. For starters, he could have woken up earlier to prevent being late and maybe even had a chance to spend a little bit of the morning with his family.
I don’t know anyone personally who has done meditation. I remember distinctively in the past when I had mentioned it to someone they simply said “I do not have time to sit down and not do anything, I can barely spend 5 minutes brushing my teeth.” This memory came flooding back when I read the part in the book where the character claims the same thing and his mentor basically says if you don’t make time to help yourself improve your well-being, how can you have time help anyone else? You can’t love anyone if you can’t love yourself. How often have we heard this yet haven’t actively acknowledged what it means? I’m going to start meditating and if it doesn’t work for me well at least I can say I tried it; instead of knocking it before I even made an attempt.
Here are my reasons why I believe meditation will me:
I love the feeling of having peace of mind – and I want to continue being in that state even when I encounter difficult moments
I like the thought of being more productive and I sincerely believe I can do this if I can focus
I want to be less bothered by the little things – ultimately stress less over all
I want to be healthier – I don’t have any illnesses at the moment but stress has a way of creeping up its way into our lives and ultimately affects our health.
I want to get to know myself better – somewhere down the line I’ve conditioned myself to live life for others’ expectations of me. I’ve deluded myself thinking that these are my wants but in reality it’s not I’m simply going with the flow. I want more control over my life yet have the mindset of calmness whenever it starts to feel like I don’t.