How to get over a heartbreak.

I was reading another blogger’s entry right now and they were talking about heartbreak. It had been over a year since their relationship ended but here they were still hurting.  It’s been so long for me I barely remember the feeling now.  I think that’s what we humans are great at feeling pain and forgetting it. In our minds we only have a memory after some time.

I remember thinking at the time “Wow this physically hurts. It was like literally feeling a knife piercing through your chest.  Suddenly the basic functions of everyday life were meaningless. I had no appetite for food. Comfort could only be found by clutching the pillow to my chest and crying.  Friends try to distract you but even they have to admit there really isn’t anything they can do but be there to assure you that you are not alone.

Anyone who has ever experienced heartbreak like this knows what I’m talking about…and if you don’t, some day I hope you will. I know that sounds a little harsh but it’s the truth.  I think the only way to truly appreciate REAL love is to experience heart break.

How to get over a heartbreak.
Take a shower
That’s right take a shower; and if you really feel bad, take a cold one you’d be amazed.  You’ll think that it’s crazy and you’ll wonder why you’re doing it but I assure you – that stabbing feeling in your chest? Gone.  (That is until you start thinking all over again.)

Get those endorphins flowing
Go for a walk and if that’s not enough to distract you, run.  Try to run so much that you can barely breathe and try your best to actually break a sweat.  Getting those endorphins flowing will help you feel better I promise.

Stop talking to the one who broke your heart
It’s tempting to remain in contact with your ex you shouldn’t.  Delete their contact information from your phone, your social network profiles, cut off all ties.  The sooner you can distance yourself from them the sooner you will feel better.

Focus on YOU
Set small goals for yourself like drink a cup tea every night before you go to bed every day for a week. Then when you’re up to it start thinking of goals you’d like to accomplish before the end of the year.  While you’re at it decide what goals you’d want to achieve in 5 years.

Whether it’s being with friends and family that always make you laugh or watch a comedy that you love.  What ever you have to do make yourself laugh. Sometimes even if you have to fake it.  Look at yourself in the mirror and just start laughing until you are doing it genuinely.


6 thoughts on “How to get over a heartbreak.

  1. Zimm July 31, 2015 / 10:27 pm

    I think the hardest part about a heart-breaking ending love is to stop thinking about it. I’ve been down this road before. Actually, I still think about him sometimes, but not in that sense. I will say, from experience, Showering, Running, and Focusing on me helped me through it. I kind of always had friends who made me laugh and forget, at least for a moment, that I was heart-broken. ❤ this post!


  2. Maddie August 6, 2015 / 9:26 am

    Those are some good tips, Sharon. I’ll have to keep those in mind. I never thought to do some of those things but I can see how they’d help. I especially like the tip about taking a shower. I find that taking a good, long shower is relaxing and always helps me to feel better. Thanks for the share, Sharon.


  3. Sir Twisted August 30, 2015 / 9:19 am

    That is some great advise and tips! I’ve not tried a lot on the list usually when a break up happens for me, i just feel destroyed inside and empty and all i could do is think of the other person, but hopefully if it happens again these tips will put my heartbreak to easy, but i am hoping i’ll never need to use them.


  4. Allenafaith August 31, 2015 / 8:56 pm

    Thank you for the tips! My boyfriend actually broke up with me a few days ago and it really hurt me. I cried all that night. He didn’t really seem to care that he’s broken my heart either. It’s funny how things like that work. I haven’t been thinking about it and I really do feel alot better. That night, I watched some funny videos on YouTube as well. That helped alot.


  5. alextuesday September 7, 2015 / 5:08 pm

    All good tips – I still remember my breakups all too well. The first will probably be with me for the rest of my life – that one was borderline traumatizing. But taking steps to heal yourself and improve your living are the healthiest steps to getting over someone.


  6. nairaoffer September 21, 2015 / 5:07 am

    nice article on breaking up… i wish i can apply this


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s