So July is coming to an end. I would really love to start posting regularly on here again. Today I realized, that I just need to stop thinking about it and just DO IT.
Too much planning can cause one to feel overwhelmed. Structure is needed though in order to avoid feeling overwhelmed from another perspective. When I feel stressed out I know creating a list helps me organize my thoughts and it helps me create a game plan.
As for this blog though… I can’t treat this like work or chore. I ENJOY writing and I love using it as an outlet for expressing my thoughts. (Even more so when I get comments!) …so I need to just dedicate time to writing. Whether it be straight on here on the computer or in a notepad. …and I NEED to POST.
So… now that I’ve got that off my chest. What should I write about? Please feel free to comment and share any ideas of what you’d be interested in reading about.
So looking at social media lately…I was a bit surprised to see so many people…NOT declaring New Years Resolutions. It seems like there is this unspoken stigma of setting “New Years Resolutions” and that if you do then chances are you will NOT keep up with them. As a matter of fact, I believe I see more people talking about how they are setting any this year. I think it’s interesting to see that happening.
I am firm believer that setting goals are important. In order to know where you’re headed you must have destination. I also believe in enjoying the ride though. Goals are important but I think it’s more important that in this moment in time to be happy. To be thankful for all that you do have right now and for all of the things you are able to do right now. I believe that being happy with yourself in the present can really pave a smooth path for you and your future goals.
When you’re with someone for so long I think it’s interesting how you learn to correspond with another. I’m not sure if I’m communicating this properly but let me try. Take humor for instance. Some people are more sarcastic than other – while some find this very amusing there are others who aren’t as amused.
As for myself and my husband I love how we interact with another and because we are so close we find certain things amusing that we say or do to one another that others might thing is absurd. It’s like the concept of “inside jokes” amongst close friends. There are things that happen between friends that hang out with one another for so long that when they are reminded of those situations uncontrollable laughter happens.
I think everybody deserves to laugh until they have tears in their eyes – moments where it is almost irrational why they are laughing so hard, so hard that their sides start to hurt and they are barely able to catch their breaths. I remember when I was younger and hanging out with my close group of friends we would frequent the bookstore. There were times I don’t even remember why I was laughing so hard but I remember laughing so hard and as I desperately try to calm myself down (my friends failing to do the same) I can’t help but laugh even harder desperately trying not to be loud.
It’s such an amazing feeling to lose yourself like that sometimes and it’s something that should happen more often than not. Yet, people today are so caught up with the negatives in life they won’t allow themselves to feel happiness of this level.
When was the last time you’ve laughed until you were crying?
I’ve always loved the idea of owning my own business and the concept of not working for anyone. I’ve always enjoyed listening to speakers who are living proof that it is possible. This seminar was dedicated to military personnel and their families.
I became completely aware that the majority of the people attending knew each other and also of the fact that I terrible at small talk. Well, what I realized is can I be totally terrible at something I haven’t attempted? It was then I realized that I simply was not confident in my own skin. These people around me know each other and they’re sharing stories of accomplishments and attempts at accomplishments and I can’t relate. I want to change that.
I had a short chat with the man next to me. Who was there visiting his son and grandchildren. He didn’t mention a daughter-in-law but I didn’t want to pry. His son invited him to the event. He got to talking about he was in the Navy. He asked what I was doing there and I mentioned that I love the idea of owning my own business some day. His response was rather cold something along the lines of he has many friends who have failed and are attempting to start their own business. He says that they work 60-70 hours a week and he has no interest in working that much. I didn’t like his negative tone but I just smiled at him and said that that’s why I think it’s important not to rush and really try to find a niche that you are passionate about because if you start a business you’re not genuinely interested in then it will feel like work. He smiled back and nodded and the seminar started.
I quickly realized that this show was a lot like the seminar that I attended back in Texas where people go on stage and share their experience and generally have an inspirational message. Philip McKernan was the first speaker and his talk was the one that I got the most from. Maybe it was his Irish accent that peaked my interest in the words he was saying but I ultimately retained the information he was saying.
We hear people talk about goals all the time how important it is to set them in order to achievement. The thing that I was able to relate the most was like him I am GREAT at setting and achieving goals. I thrive on it. However when he asked, “Do you ever feel empty after achieving your goals?” There were several times that I felt like that and his explanation made perfect sense. Too often do we set goals for ourselves based on other people’s opinions. For example: to save X amount of money to feel secure, to lose weight, to get a job in a certain field, to own a certain amount of property, to buy a house with 4 bedroom and two baths, etc. Although these goals are achievable and not unreasonable too often do we set these goals not because it is something we want but rather what others have expressed sounds good or the media has portrayed as it is a good idea.
Your goals must be AUTHENTIC, and your own. Phillip McKernan mentioned intuition a lot and I would have to agree that your gut is a GREAT indicator of whether or not you are doing the right thing. When you are doing a task or striving for a certain goal if you are not feeling that passion in your gut if you’re not determined to do it with all of your effort then you are not following your gut. There is a cliche that is often told, “Do what makes you happy” I mean we hear it all the time but rarely do any of us really do it. We do what we do because we’re good at it, because it looks good to other people, because others think it’s a good idea when reality we should always be striving to do what makes us truly happy as individuals.
It was in the 6th grade when I learned to write poetry for the first time. Hearing praises for my assignments – they encouraged me to keep writing them in my spare time. It was then that I took an interest in others’ work.
Old poetry confused me because the English language was much different back then. Invictus became one of my favorite poems of all time. I did not discover it until I was 15 but it spoke volumes to me at a time when I needed direction in my life. To me, I interpreted this poem that it’s ok to listen to your own voice and decide things for what you truly believe is best for you.
The word “Invictus” is actually Latin which means unconquered.
Poetry tends to be shorter than stories which I found appealing because in the time I can read one story or book I could read many poems. There is also something fun about them in a sense that you can sit there and try to interpret what the writer was trying to portray OR you can just take the poem for what it is and apply how you can relate to it.
Written by: William Ernest Henley
Out of the night that covers me,
Black as the Pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul.
In the fell clutch of circumstance
I have not winced nor cried aloud.
Under the bludgeonings of chance
My head is bloody, but unbowed.
Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds, and shall find, me unafraid.
It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll.
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.